What is the Spooning position?

Lying romantically together in the Spooning position, also known as spooning, is not only a lovely way to fall asleep but is also a great position for sexual intercourse. The Spooning position is an absolute favourite among many couples, and we completely understand why!

How do you do the Spooning position?

The arms of the partner lying behind (often the man) should be wrapped around the partner in front. This creates a wonderful feeling of romance and protection. Spooning allows you to enjoy gentle foreplay first, after which you can remove your clothes and continue with an exciting lovemaking session.

Spooning is often referred to as the “lazy position” because both you and your partner can simply lie down while having sex. It also requires only minimal hip movement from one of the two partners.

When is the best time to use the Spooning position?

Spooning is an excellent sex position when you and/or your partner are feeling tired. It is ideal after waking up or when you both want to fall asleep immediately after making love.

Who is the Spooning position suitable for?

Spooning is a simple yet enjoyable sex position that is perfect for both heterosexual and same-sex couples. This position is especially loved by people who enjoy cuddling and intimate, affectionate sex. It is also well suited for couples who enjoy anal sex.

Did you know that Spooning is also a great position for pregnant women? Pregnant women can lie comfortably on their side in a foetal position. This keeps the belly on the opposite side of the penetrating partner, preventing it from getting in the way.

The advantages of the Spooning position

• Very suitable for long and relaxed lovemaking sessions. Ideal for couples with low energy.
• After sex, you can simply fall asleep together in this position.
• A very comfortable position if other positions sometimes cause discomfort.
• In the Spooning position, the penetrating partner can caress the receiving partner all over the body.
• The receiving partner can also stimulate themselves during penetration.

The disadvantages of the Spooning position

• In this position, the receiving partner has little control over the pace.
• The receiving partner cannot easily touch, see, or caress the penetrating partner.
• Kissing is difficult or impossible in this position. For that reason, many people consider it a less romantic position…

Variations of the Spooning position

Is the classic version of Cowgirl Style not exciting enough for you? Then be sure to try these variations!

• In this position, the receiving partner can lean forward and lift their upper leg towards their chest. The penetrating partner can then shift their position so that they rest more on the upper hip instead of directly behind. This allows you to experiment with the depth of penetration and the pace.
• Spork: in this variation, you rotate approximately 90 degrees so that the penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner lies across them at a right angle.
• If the receiving partner occasionally squeezes their buttocks tightly together, the vagina or anus becomes tighter, creating extra stimulation for both partners.
• When excitement becomes overwhelming and you’re close to orgasm, the penetrating partner can slow down and reduce the intensity of thrusting. This lowers arousal slightly and helps you enjoy the position for longer.
• The receiving partner (the woman in a heterosexual couple) can also turn around 180 degrees so that you are facing each other. This allows you to make eye contact and kiss.

Tips to make Spooning even more enjoyable

1. Make some space

Move your pillows out of the way for a moment. This gives you all the room you need to stretch your arm above your head, allowing you to lie in a more relaxed and comfortable position.

2. Avoid a numb arm

Lie in the standard Spooning position, but rest your head on a pillow (not on your partner’s neck). Notice the gap between your partner’s neck and the mattress? Instead of placing your arm underneath your partner’s body as usual and cutting off your circulation, stretch your arm straight forward underneath that gap. Wrap your other arm around your partner’s body, allowing you to gently caress them.

3. Gently pull away after sex

Does your partner fall asleep immediately after sex while spooning? Carefully slide your arm out from underneath their body and make sure their pillow supports their head properly. You can still stay close and cuddle up against them. Sleep well!

Extra accessories for the Spooning position

In the Spooning position, both of your hands are free to provide extra stimulation to the receiving partner’s genitals. The penis can be further stimulated with a penis masturbator, while the clitoris can be stimulated with a dedicated vibrator. Lubricant or massage oil is also always a great addition, especially if you are engaging in anal penetration in this position.

Now you know exactly what the Spooning position is, what its advantages and disadvantages are, and which fun variations you can try. Enjoy!